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Do the words for better or worse ever haunt you? Let’s talk about it.
I want to start by saying screw you 2020. Any of you feel the same way? Thought so!
I’m not the only one whose marriage has been affected by all the craziness this year has brought.
First of all, date nights are a must in our relationship and I’m running low on backyard date ideas, I just want to get dressed up and look pretty for once this year! I don’t know what my face would think if I actually wore makeup.
This year has thrown 3300 curve balls and we’ve had to adapt, pray, cry, laugh, rinse, repeat.
So what do you do when for better or worse seems to be for worse, worse, worse, worse, worse?
The Grass Isn’t Greener On The Other Side
Okay, who else thinks about different scenarios, like you’d be happier single?
I know I know I’m not judging you.
It’s easy to focus on the negative of your relationship and imagine how posh and peaceful life would be if you were the only person you had to answer to.
Let’s be realistic, take a step back and really analyze your life.
Changing your focus and thinking of all the positive things your spouse brings to your life you can change your mindset.
When I think “ugh why am I even married, this sucks!” it’s because I’ve been speaking and focusing on the negative and playing the blame game.
In reality, I would totally miss my husband if he was gone, I’d cry myself to sleep and pray him back home.
I have to remind myself, being single would not be all it’s cracked up to be.
Besides, who would I share all my inside jokes with? And put my cold feet on at night? Who could I share my most intimate thoughts and dreams with? Who would be my partner in Netflix and remodel?
So here’s what we can do when our marriage feels like for better will never come.
Think about all the good times and positive things and talk about them. Keep planning those at home or outdoorsy dates and show up every time.
Also, cut them some slack!
Life is not just hard for you it is hard for them too. After all, two become one.
The Better Will COme
Don’t give up, the best is yet to come!
It’s not all downhill from here, dream and plan together. Set goals and give them your all.
If you want the better part to show up and show out, anytime you have a negative thought about your love think of something positive about them.
When you want to correct them, think about what you loved and appreciate about them.
I know it’s harder to do than it is to type but I believe for my marriage and for yours that we will have successful relationships filled with excitement, passion, and years of better.
What are some ideas you have to focus on the positive?
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